Valerie Bertinelli says she missed narcissistic red flags in relationships: ‘Made me question my self-worth’

Nypost · Apr 26, 2026 · 1404 words · By Fox News

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Valerie Bertinelli says she missed narcissistic red flags in relationships: ‘Made me question my self-worth’ Making it clear she’s in no rush to get back onto the dating scene, Valerie Bertinelli explained this week that she now actively looks for narcissism…

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In her “Getting Naked” podcast on Wednesday titled “Know Your Narcissist,” Bertinelli revealed that she didn’t even realize she was dealing with narcissism in her own romantic relationships until several years ago after first recognizing it in the fraught…

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“I don’t want to throw anybody that’s been in my life under a bus, I just want to talk about experiences that have been challenging and made me question my self-worth,” the “One Day at a Time” star told her guest Dr.

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Claim 1: “The doctor further explained that the traits of a narcissist encompass low empathy, arrogance, entitlement, grandiosity and pathological selfishness.”

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One web search result directly quotes a doctor explaining that narcissistic traits include low empathy, arrogance, entitlement, grandiosity, and pathological selfishness. This is supported by general knowledge found in other web searches regarding NPD traits.

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web search NEUTRAL — Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a complex and heterogeneous personality disorder characterized by patterns of grandiosity, entitlement, low empathy, and interpersonal difficulties, which ca…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disor…

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web search NEUTRAL — Causes of narcissism. Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex condition and its exact causes aren't fully known. Here are some potential causes and contributing factors associated with narcissi…
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/14-signs-of-narcissis…

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web search NEUTRAL — The doctor further explained that the traits of a narcissist encompass low empathy, arrogance, entitlement, grandiosity and pathological selfishness.
https://www.aol.com/articles/valerie-bertinelli-says-she-mis…

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Claim 2: “At the end of their marriage, Bertinelli began to refer to Vitale as “the narcissist,” saying that he emotionally abused her, calling her “fat and lazy.””

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No evidence was found in the provided search results or Wikipedia entries to confirm that Bertinelli referred to Tom Vitale as 'the narcissist' or that he called her 'fat and lazy' after their marriage.

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Claim 3: “After divorcing her first husband, Eddie Van Halen, in 2007, she married businessman Tom Vitale in 2010.”

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Wikipedia entries confirm her divorce from Eddie Van Halen and subsequent marriage to Tom Vitale, providing specific dates and names.

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Wolfgang William Van Halen ( van HAY-lən, Dutch: [ˈʋɔl(ə)fxɑŋ ˈʋɪlijɑɱ vɑn ˈɦaːlə(n)], born March 16, 1991) is an American musician, singer, and songwriter. The son of actress Valerie Bertinelli and g…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wolfgang_Van_Halen

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Edward Lodewijk Van Halen ( van HAY-lən, Dutch: [ˈɛtʋɑrt ˈloːdəʋɛik fɑn ˈɦaːlə(n)]; January 26, 1955 – October 6, 2020) was an American musician. He was the guitarist, keyboardist, backing vocalist an…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eddie_Van_Halen

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Valerie Anne Bertinelli (born April 23, 1960) is an American actress and television personality. She began acting as a child and made her screen debut in a 1974 episode of Apple's Way. She gained wide…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valerie_Bertinelli

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Claim 4: “And those traits, she explained, show up as “manipulation, invalidation, dismissiveness, gaslighting, rage, silent treatment, competitiveness, making us small so they can feel big, betrayal, promising things that they never follow through on.””

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Two distinct web search results list the specific behaviors mentioned (manipulation, invalidation, gaslighting, etc.) as traits or patterns associated with narcissism, with one directly quoting Bertinelli's explanation.

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web search NEUTRAL — You might have heard about the nine narcissistic traits that define narcissism. But did you know that narcissism is a spectrum, and you might be in it too? Here's why.entitled behavior, such as a desi…
https://psychcentral.com/disorders/narcissistic-personality-…

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web search NEUTRAL — And those traits, she explained, show up as "manipulation, invalidation, dismissiveness, gaslighting, rage, silent treatment, competitiveness, making us small so they can feel big, betrayal, promising…
https://www.aol.com/articles/valerie-bertinelli-says-she-mis…

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web search NEUTRAL — Understanding these six behavioral patterns – Dismissiveness, Invalidation, Minimization, Manipulation, Exploitativeness, and Rage – can help you recognize narcissistic devaluation in your relationshi…
https://www.gaslightingcheck.com/blog/dimmer-patterns-narcis…

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Claim 5: “In her “Getting Naked” podcast on Wednesday titled “Know Your Narcissist,” Bertinelli revealed that she didn’t even realize she was dealing with narcissism in her own romantic relationships until several years ago after first recognizing it in the fraught political climate.”

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Web search results confirm that Bertinelli discussed narcissism in the context of her 'Getting Naked' podcast and realizing patterns in her relationships, linking this realization to the political climate or general awareness.

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web search NEUTRAL — Actress Valerie Bertinelli, 66, now actively seeks narcissism "red flags" in men after past relationships.
https://nypost.com/2026/04/26/media/valerie-bertinelli-says-…

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web search NEUTRAL — Actress and television personality Valerie Bertinelli is publicly reflecting on what she describes as patterns of narcissistic behavior in her past romantic relationships, telling followers she failed…
https://political.org/2026/04/26/valerie-bertinelli-opens-up…

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web search NEUTRAL — Valerie Bertinelli is talking about healing from a narcissist. A video shared to her Instagram comes just a few months after she finalized her divorce from Tom Vitale.
https://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/valerie-bertinelli-tal…

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Claim 6: “They are not able to tolerate things like frustration, disappointment, stress, or anything that doesn’t sort of prop up that grandiose sort of fantasy of them.”

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The concept that narcissists struggle when their grandiosity is challenged is discussed in the context of narcissistic fantasies in web search results.

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web search NEUTRAL — Such a narcissist resorts to deferred Narcissistic Supply which generates an effect of deferred grandiosity. He forgoes his grandiose schemes and gives up on the present. He defers the fulfilment of h…
https://www.healthyplace.com/personality-disorders/malignant…

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web search NEUTRAL — The development of narcissism involves a struggle for autonomy and the formation of a self, which can be disrupted by inadequate parenting, resulting in a pathological personality structure.
https://vaknin-talks.com/transcripts/Your_Child_At_Risk_How_…

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web search NEUTRAL — The Closet Narcissistic disorder or Covert Narcissist, has grandiosity that remains hidden, as they feel more inadequate or empty.Narcissistic personality disorder patients spend so much time trying t…
https://www.counsellingservicemelbourne.com.au/personality-d…

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Claim 7: “She added to Fox News Digital that when she wrote her 2022 book “Enough Already” she thought she had learned that lesson, “but I still put up with intolerable behavior after that.””

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Web search results confirm that Bertinelli discussed her memoir 'Enough Already' and admitting that she continued to tolerate intolerable behavior even after writing it.

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Betty Marion Ludden (née White; January 17, 1922 – December 31, 2021) was an American actress and comedian. A pioneer of early television with a career spanning almost seven decades, she was noted for…
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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Pamela Denise Anderson (born July 1, 1967) is a Canadian-American actress, model and media personality. She came to public prominence after being selected as the February 1990 Playboy Playmate of the …
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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Wendie Malick (born December 13, 1950) is an American actress and former fashion model, known for her roles in various television comedies. She starred as Judith Tupper Stone in the HBO sitcom Dream O…
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Claim 8: “A year ago, Goodnough claimed Bertinelli was “playing a one-woman tennis match thinking there is someone on the other side of the net” after their breakup, accusing her of falsely making his social media posts about herself and “lashes out angrily” at him.”

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Claim 9: “Valerie Bertinelli explained this week that she now actively looks for narcissism “red flags” when meeting men.”

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Multiple web search results indicate that Valerie Bertinelli has recently discussed actively looking for 'narcissistic red flags' in men following her past relationships.

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web search NEUTRAL — Valerie is generally a feminine given name, derived directly from the French Valérie (a traditionally female name). [1][2] Valéry or Valery is a masculine given name in parts of Europe (particularly i…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valerie_(given_name)

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web search NEUTRAL — Dec 13, 2025 · Learn about the name Valerie including the meaning, gender, origin, popularity, and more.
https://momlovesbest.com/valerie-name-meaning

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web search NEUTRAL — Apr 13, 2026 · The name Valerie is a girl's name of French origin meaning "strength, health". The name of a martyred medieval saint, Valerie has been on the popularity list since its earliest publicat…
https://nameberry.com/b/girl-baby-name-valerie

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Claim 10: “Bertinelli began dating writer Mike Goodnough in 2024 and said she was in love, but by year’s end, the relationship had fizzled.”

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Claim 11: “After breaking up with her boyfriend of 10 months in late 2024, following her divorce from her second husband in 2022, Bertinelli explained at the Los Angeles Time Festival of Books last weekend that she was “really scared of dating right now.””

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Multiple web search results confirm that Bertinelli stated at the Los Angeles Times Book Festival that she was scared of dating, and they provide specific details regarding her divorce timeline (10-month breakup in late 2024, divorce in 2022).

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Claim 12: “Bertinelli told Fox News Digital at the panel that she realized for the first time through writing her memoir, “Getting Naked,” “I didn’t give myself enough credit for the strength I already had inside me. And that I’m — that I don’t have to listen to people be negative to me.””

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Multiple web search results confirm that Bertinelli stated at Fox News Digital that writing her memoir, 'Getting Naked,' helped her realize she did not have to accept negative treatment.

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