How to Dress for Old Age offers personal reflections and important lessons for facing life’s last act

The Conversation · 🇦🇺 public Australia · May 25, 2026 · 1556 words · By Catharine Coleborne

Emotional Toll of Caregiving Aged Care Systemic Failures Loss of Individuality in Old Age

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The article is a review of the book 'How to Dress for Old Age' by David Carlin and Peta Murray, which explores the emotional and spiritual challenges of caring for elderly parents in aged care. The author discusses themes of individuality, the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic on the elderly, and the systemic failures of the aged care system.

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What happened

Once we enter midlife, it seems everywhere we look there are signs pointing to the future.

Why it matters

Advice about retirement strategies, property and housing, superannuation (if we’re lucky enough to have it), how to age well, be healthy, adjust to life’s “third act”.

Common ground

But we less frequently reflect on the emotional and spiritual aspects of ageing, or watching our parents age and become dependent on us and on carers.

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The tension in the story is sharpened by Loaded Language: language that can make the dispute feel more urgent, personal, or adversarial than the underlying facts alone.

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What evidence would most clearly confirm or weaken the claim that the report of the Royal Commission into Aged Care Quality and Safety, which was released in March 2021?
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Claim 1: “the report of the Royal Commission into Aged Care Quality and Safety, which was released in March 2021”

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Multiple web search results confirm that the Royal Commission into Aged Care Quality and Safety delivered its report in 2021.

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web search NEUTRAL — The report has triggered a wave of criticism from advocates for older Australians, who say the lengthy waits could worsen existing conditions, flying in the face of recommendations from the Royal Comm…
https://www.muswellbrookchronicle.com.au/story/9247082/mps-p…

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web search NEUTRAL — Episodes in ageing. These uncomfortable questions sit at the heart of How to Dress for Old Age. The book tells the story of the authors combining forces to help Carlin’s mother Joan and Murray’s fathe…
https://theconversation.com/how-to-dress-for-old-age-offers-…

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web search NEUTRAL — Despite this investment, the aged care sector is still plagued by concerns around neglect, understaffing and poor quality of care. This led the federal government to launch the Royal Commission into A…
https://www.theaustraliatoday.com.au/australians-wait-12-mon…

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Claim 2: “Her beautiful poem The Gift, first published in The New Yorker and later in her Stella Prize-winning book The Jaguar (2022)”

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No evidence was found in the provided search results to verify the publication of 'The Gift' in The New Yorker or the Stella Prize win for 'The Jaguar' in 2022.

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Claim 3: “its authors, David Carlin and Peta Murray, both creative writers and academics at RMIT”

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Multiple independent web search results confirm that David Carlin and Peta Murray are writers and colleagues at RMIT University.

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web search NEUTRAL — David Carlin and Peta Murray offer hopeful, poignant and personally informed responses to ageing and mortality.
https://theconversation.com/how-to-dress-for-old-age-offers-…

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web search NEUTRAL — A writer, dramaturge, researcher and teacher of creative writing, she completed her PhD in 2017.She is also interested in language-based artistic research, and all things diarological. Supervisors: Da…
https://rmit.academia.edu/PetaMurray

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web search NEUTRAL — Writers and colleagues Peta Murray, 67, and David Carlin, 62, grew close when their parents became residents of the same aged-care home.
https://www.smh.com.au/national/peta-and-david-share-an-offi…

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Claim 4: “How to Dress for Old Age – David Carlin and Peta Murray (Upswell Press)”

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While web search results for claim 1 and 4 mention the book 'How to Dress for Old Age' and its authors David Carlin and Peta Murray, the specific publisher 'Upswell Press' is not explicitly confirmed in the provided evidence snippets. The Wikipedia results provided for this claim are completely irrelevant.

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — On September 8, 2025, the remains of 14-year-old Celeste Rivas Hernandez were discovered in Los Angeles, California, inside the front trunk of an impounded Tesla registered to David Burke, a musician …
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Killing_of_Celeste_Rivas_Herna…

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Plain dress is a practice among some religious groups, primarily some Christian churches in which people dress in clothes of traditional modest design, sturdy fabric, and conservative cut. It is inten…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plain_dress

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — The Boy In The Dress is a comedic children's book written by David Walliams and illustrated by Quentin Blake, published in October 2008. It is the first book by Walliams, a television comedian best kn…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Boy_in_the_Dress_(novel)

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Claim 5: “poet Sarah Holland-Batt... was featured on ABC Radio in August 2020”

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While web search results confirm Sarah Holland-Batt is a poet and academic, there is no specific evidence provided confirming an ABC Radio appearance in August 2020.

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web search NEUTRAL — Sarah Holland-Batt (born 1982) is a contemporary Australian poet, critic, and academic.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sarah_Holland-Batt

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web search NEUTRAL — Sarah Holland-Batt's dad Tony was a loving father, her intellectual mentor and her friend. At 18, she became one of his carers. Later she battled an aged care system which let him down in the ...
https://www.abc.net.au/listen/programs/conversations/convers…

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web search NEUTRAL — Articles by Sarah Holland-Batt on Muck Rack. Find Sarah Holland-Batt's email address, contact information, LinkedIn, Twitter, other social media and more.
https://muckrack.com/sarah-holland-batt/articles

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Claim 6: “The book tells the story of the authors combining forces to help Carlin’s mother Joan and Murray’s father Frank settle positively into an aged care facility they refer to as “the Place”.”

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One web search result explicitly describes the book as telling the story of the authors helping Carlin's mother Joan and Murray's father Frank settle into an aged care facility. Other provided evidence for this claim is irrelevant.

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Claim 7: “Joan and Frank both enter aged care in Melbourne, as they can no longer be supported in their home communities of Adelaide, and Wamberal on the NSW central coast.”

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The provided evidence for this claim consists of irrelevant results about Joan of Arc and Australia Day honours. No evidence was found regarding the specific locations of Adelaide and Wamberal in relation to the authors' parents.

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — The 1997 Australia Day Honours are appointments to various orders and honours to recognise and reward good works by Australian citizens. The list was announced on 26 January 1997 by the Governor Gener…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1997_Australia_Day_Honours

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web search NEUTRAL — Joan encouraged the French to aggressively pursue the English during the Loire Campaign, which culminated in another decisive victory at Patay, opening the way for the French army to advance on Reims …
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joan_of_Arc

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web search NEUTRAL — 3 days ago · Joan of Arc is a national heroine of France, a peasant girl who, believing that she was acting under divine guidance, led the French army in a momentous victory that repulsed an English a…
https://www.britannica.com/biography/Saint-Joan-of-Arc

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