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From ‘French leave’ to ‘Irish goodbyes’: why you may be right to exit a party without saying goodbye

The Conversation · · 945 words · By Trudy Meehan
Social Etiquette vs. Self-Care Neurodivergence Mental Health and Social Anxiety

The article discusses the practice of leaving social gatherings without saying goodbye, framing it as a potential coping mechanism for individuals with anxiety, neurodivergence, or chronic illness. It suggests that 'selective sociality' and communicating one's needs to hosts can help maintain mental health and sustainable relationships.

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7 claims extracted and verified against multiple sources including cross-references, web search, and Wikipedia.

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“Whether you call it an Irish goodbye, French leave or filer à l'anglaise (leave in the English style), as the French prefer”
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Wikipedia and multiple web sources explicitly confirm that 'filer à l'anglaise' is the French expression for leaving without saying goodbye.
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web search NEUTRAL — French leave (sometimes a French exit, an Irish goodbye or an Irish exit, or in French a filer à l'anglaise) is a departure from a location or event without informing others or without seeking approva…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/French_leave
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web search NEUTRAL — ‘Filer à l’anglaise’ is used when a person leaves somewhere discreetly, which isn’t a very polite thing to do. In English one might say ‘to do a runner’. Example: Hier, pendant la soirée, j’ai filé a …
https://www.frenchtoday.com/blog/french-vocabulary/french-id…
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web search NEUTRAL — Whether you call it an Irish goodbye, French leave or filer à l'anglaise (leave in the English style), as the French prefer, the act of quietly slipping out of a party without fanfare is a familiar so…
https://theconversation.com/from-french-leave-to-irish-goodb…
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“The Brazilians called it sair à francesa (French style)”
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Two independent sources (Street Smart Brazil and a Portuguese-English translation guide) confirm that 'sair à francesa' is used in Brazil to describe leaving without saying goodbye.
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web search NEUTRAL — You leave without saying goodbye because you think no one will care, that you don’t matter enough to make a fuss when leaving. Leaving quietly can become a way to protect yourself from the discomfort …
https://theconversation.com/from-french-leave-to-irish-goodb…
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web search NEUTRAL — As you may know, one potential downside (depending on how you look at it) to parties with Brazilians is that leaving takes a long time. Sometimes I’m so lazy to do so that I just stay until the party …
https://streetsmartbrazil.com/learn-colloquial-portuguese-a-…
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web search NEUTRAL — IRISH GOODBYE. She left the party without saying goodbye, just like a true Irish goodbye. Ela foi embora da festa sem se despedir, uma saída à francesa clássica.
https://www.teclasap.com.br/sair-a-francesa/
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“the Germans a Polnischer Abgang (Polish departure)”
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One web result mentions a 'Polish exit' in Germany, but the other search results for this claim are generic dictionary definitions of the word 'term' and provide no evidence.
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web search NEUTRAL — The meaning of TERM is a word or expression that has a precise meaning in some uses or is peculiar to a science, art, profession, or subject. How to use term in a sentence.
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/term
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web search NEUTRAL — TERMS definition: (usually specified prenominally) the actual language or mode of presentation used See examples of terms used in a sentence.
https://www.dictionary.com/browse/terms
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web search NEUTRAL — TERM definition: 1. the fixed period of time that something lasts for: 2. one of the periods into which a year is…. Learn more.
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/term
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“Australians call it ninja bombing”
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The provided web results do not contain the term 'ninja bombing' in the context of leaving a party; one result discusses WWII bombing in Darwin and another discusses general Aussie slang without mentioning this specific phrase.
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web search NEUTRAL — To leave a party without saying goodbye to the host is known as a 'French exit' in the UK, an 'Irish exit' in the US, a 'Polish exit' in Germany and an 'English exit' in France.Stop Saying "GOODBYE!" …
https://www.calendar-canada.ca/frequently-asked-questions/wh…
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web search NEUTRAL — This guide covers 21 Australian slang phrases and expressions, so you'll understand the lingo in Australia and avoid being a bogan, nah.
https://www.babbel.com/en/magazine/21-essential-australian-e…
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web search NEUTRAL — About Press Copyright Contact us Creators Advertise Developers Terms Privacy Policy & Safety How YouTube works Test new features.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WyvnnCTaYX8
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“some psychologists argue that it’s a coping strategy”
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The search results for this claim are generic dictionary definitions of the word 'some' and do not provide any psychological arguments regarding leaving parties as a coping strategy.
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web search NEUTRAL — When some is used without a number, most commentators feel that somewhat is to be preferred. Their advice is an oversimplification, however; only when some modifies an adjective, usually a comparative…
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/some
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web search NEUTRAL — It'll be some time before we meet again. It was some years later when they next met. We discussed the problem at some length.
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/some
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web search NEUTRAL — SOME definition: being an undetermined or unspecified one. See examples of some used in a sentence.
https://www.dictionary.com/browse/some
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“Research shows that being your truest self and having the best social connections go hand in hand.”
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Multiple academic-style abstracts and articles indicate a positive correlation between authentic self-presentation (being one's truest self) and improved mental health, well-being, and interpersonal relationship satisfaction.
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web search NEUTRAL — ABSTRACT Grounded in the Uses and Gratifications theory, this review contributes to the rapidly-evolving field of social media research by examining the association between observable self-disclosure …
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/0144929X.2025.2…
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web search NEUTRAL — Empirical evidence has suggested a positive correlation between authentic self-presentation on social media and improved mental health and well-being. False self-presentation, conversely, may bring ab…
https://www.firstmonday.org/ojs/index.php/fm/article/view/13…
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web search NEUTRAL — The association between self-presentation on social network sites and interpersonal relationship satisfaction among high school students: the chain mediating role of self-esteem and self-identity
https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.…
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“some psychologists call it “selective sociality””
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The search results discuss 'Social One' in Enneagrams and general social media psychology, but none mention the specific psychological term 'selective sociality' as a description for being choosy about one's social life.
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web search NEUTRAL — Social One — “Non-Adaptability / Rigidity”. The Social One is less of a perfectionist and focuses more on being the perfect example for others of the right way to be. This One is not an internally anx…
https://www.ashliewoods.com/enneagram-social-one
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web search NEUTRAL — Use social media tools to expand their own social connections. Have their real identities concealed by virtual ones. As a result of this power through new social media technology, users are in some wa…
https://online.king.edu/news/psychology-of-social-media/
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web search NEUTRAL — On social media, we compare ourselves to the curated self-presentations of others and always come up short. Social media makes experiencing real-world emotional life very hard. And that means it’s ult…
https://upfront.scholastic.com/issues/2022-23/010923/is-soci…
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