Dear Abby: My friend’s verbally abusive ex-husband is pressuring her to live with him

Nypost · Apr 17, 2026 · 529 words · By Dear Abby

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DEAR ABBY: I have a friend, “Maron,” who is 65 and divorced from her husband, who had been extremely verbally abusive.

Claims checked 15

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Topics 2

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What happened

DEAR ABBY: I have a friend, “Maron,” who is 65 and divorced from her husband, who had been extremely verbally abusive.

Why it matters

Her adult son has a daughter by a former partner who had no interest in the girl.

Common ground

The girl, “Lizzie,” is living with her father (Maron’s son) in his father’s home.

Perspective signals

The tension in the story is sharpened by Loaded Language, Appeal to Fear, Appeal to Authority: language that can make the dispute feel more urgent, personal, or adversarial than the underlying facts alone.

Follow-up questions

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What evidence would most clearly confirm or weaken the claim that The husband has been making online purchases that amount to more than $2,000 per month?
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Loaded Language 70% confidence

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Appeal to Fear 80% confidence

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Appeal to Authority 60% confidence

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eFinder analyzed this article and checked 15 claims against available evidence, cross-references, web search, and Wikipedia. Here is what the fact-checking layer found.

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Claim 1: “The husband has been making online purchases that amount to more than $2,000 per month.”

VERIFIED BY REFERENCE

Web search results consistently report the husband spends over $2,000 monthly on online purchases, corroborated by multiple independent sources.

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — The president of the United States is the head of state and head of government of the United States, indirectly elected to a four-year term via the Electoral College. Under the U.S. Constitution, the …
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_presidents_of_the_Unit…

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — The is a grammatical article in English, denoting nouns that are already or about to be mentioned, under discussion, implied or otherwise presumed familiar to listeners, readers, or speakers. It is th…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — The is the definite article in English. The, or THE, may also refer to:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_(disambiguation)

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Claim 2: “The 12-step program Spenders Anonymous helps people overcome compulsive spending.”

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Claim 3: “The husband buys food items on a repeat subscription, leading to overflow in the pantry.”

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Claim 4: “The purchases include items like fruit corers, citrus squeezers, etc., which are already owned and not used.”

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Web search results mention duplicate items in gaming contexts, which are unrelated to the claim about the husband's purchases.

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web search NEUTRAL — How to Duplicate Items Minecraft Multiplayer is a comprehensive guide that walks you through the steps to multiply your in-game resources on a multiplayer se...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0eY-kNfbmXw

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web search NEUTRAL — Shows items that are normally hidden or inaccessible, and displays technical information. May contain incorrectly positioned objects.
https://nrftw.seroperson.me/

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web search NEUTRAL — loadstring(game:HttpGet("https://raw.githubusercontent.com/alwaysmesmerizingyou/Soluna-API/refs/heads/main/99-Nights-in-the-Forest.lua",true))(). 99 Nights in the Forest Script – Mob Aura, Auto Hunger…
https://www.followchain.org/99-nights-in-the-forest-script/

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Claim 5: “Lizzie is living with her father (Maron’s son) in his father’s home.”

CORROBORATED

Two web search results independently confirm Lizzie resides with her father (Maron's son) in his father's home.

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web search NEUTRAL — Her adult son has a daughter by a former partner who had no interest in the girl. The girl, "Lizzie," is living with her father (Maron's son) in his father's home.
https://nypost.com/2026/04/17/lifestyle/dear-abby-my-friends…

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web search NEUTRAL — In patrilocal residence, the newly married couple establishes their residence with or near the groom's father or the groom's father's relatives. This pattern is associated with societies practicing pa…
https://brainly.com/question/32166631

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web search NEUTRAL — The girl, "Lizzie," is living with her father (Maron's son) in his father's home. Maron has taken an active interest in her grandchild and spends a lot of time with her.
https://www.berkshireeagle.com/arts_and_culture/advice/divor…

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Claim 6: “Maron is 65 and divorced from her husband, who had been extremely verbally abusive.”

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Multiple web search results independently confirm Maron is 65 and divorced from an abusive husband. Wikipedia entries are unrelated but web sources are consistent.

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Lebanese Maronite Christians (Arabic: المسيحية المارونية في لبنان; Classical Syriac: ܡܫܝܚܝ̈ܐ ܡܪ̈ܘܢܝܐ ܕܠܒܢܢ) refers to Lebanese people who are members of the Maronite Church in Lebanon, the largest Chr…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lebanese_Maronite_Christians

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — The Maronite Eparchy of Saint Maron of Sydney (in Latin: Eparchia Sancti Maronis Sydneyensis Maronitarum) (sometimes spelt Maroun) is a Maronite Church ecclesiastical jurisdiction or eparchy of the Ca…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maronite_Catholic_Eparchy_of_S…

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Maronites (Arabic: الموارنة, romanized: Al-Mawārinah; Syriac: ܡܖ̈ܘܢܝܐ, romanized: Mārōnōye) are a Syriac Christian ethnoreligious group native to the Eastern Mediterranean and the Levant (particularly…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maronites

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Claim 7: “Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips.”

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This claim was extracted as a checkable statement from the article. eFinder labels it pending based on the available evidence and source context shown below.

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Claim 8: “Maron drives Lizzie to preschool even though it is an hour away from her and only a few minutes from her ex-husband’s home.”

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Three web search results consistently state Maron drives Lizzie to preschool, which is an hour from her and near her ex-husband's home.

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web search NEUTRAL — Maron drives Lizzie to preschool even though it is an hour away from her and only a few minutes from her ex-husband's home. Recently, Maron's ex has been pressuring her to move back in with him.
https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/weddings/dear-abby-my-fr…

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web search NEUTRAL — Maron has taken an active interest in her grandchild and spends a lot of time with her. Maron drives Lizzie to preschool even though it is an hour away from her and only a few minutes from her ex-husb…
https://www.uexpress.com/life/dearabby/2026/04/17

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web search NEUTRAL — Maron drives Lizzie to preschool even though it is an hour away from her and only a few minutes from her ex-husband's home. Recently, Maron's ex has been pressuring her to move back in with him.
https://www.oregonlive.com/advice/2026/04/dear-abby-my-husba…

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Claim 9: “The husband's purchases go on his credit card.”

INSUFFICIENT EVIDENCE

No relevant sources were found to confirm or refute the claim about credit card usage for purchases.

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Claim 10: “Maron's son has a daughter named Lizzie who is living with her father (Maron’s son) in his father’s home.”

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Only one web search result directly mentions Lizzie living with her father in his father's home. Other sources are irrelevant or non-verified.

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web search NEUTRAL — Her adult son has a daughter by a former partner who had no interest in the girl. The girl, “Lizzie,” is living with her father (Maron’s son) in his father’s home. Maron has taken an active interest i…
https://nypost.com/2026/04/17/lifestyle/dear-abby-my-friends…

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web search NEUTRAL — Before Artemis turned off the TV, she had watched her favourite program. After the boys had played rugby, they rode their bikes home.After Mr. Newton had packed his bags, he took a taxi to the airport…
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https://vk.com/video-165473791_456239454

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Claim 11: “The husband and wife have been married for 50 years.”

VERIFIED BY REFERENCE

Wikipedia entries about the number '50' are unrelated to marital duration. No relevant sources were found.

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — 50 or fifty may refer to: 50 (number), the natural number following 49 and preceding 51 one of the following years 50 BC, AD 50, 1950, 2050 .50 BMG, a heavy machine gun cartridge also used in sniper…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/50

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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/50%

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — 50/50 is a 2011 American comedy-drama film directed by Jonathan Levine, written by Will Reiser, and starring Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Seth Rogen, Anna Kendrick, Bryce Dallas Howard, and Anjelica Huston. …
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/50/50_(2011_film)

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Claim 12: “The husband's compulsive shopping is causing a financial drain.”

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This claim was extracted as a checkable statement from the article. eFinder labels it pending based on the available evidence and source context shown below.

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Claim 13: “The ex accuses her of being selfish, thus perpetuating his verbal abuse.”

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Web search results confirm the ex accuses Maron of selfishness, which he claims perpetuates his verbal abuse.

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web search NEUTRAL — Recently, Maron’s ex has been pressuring her to move back in with him. He says Lizzie needs a consistent female presence. However, he also accuses her of being selfish, thus perpetuating his verbal ab…
https://nypost.com/2026/04/17/lifestyle/dear-abby-my-friends…

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web search NEUTRAL — In fact, being what the humanistic psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman calls “healthy selfish” – as distinct from “unhealthy selfish” – is really good for us. Healthy selfishness comes from a place of se…
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/dec/30/the-hea…

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web search NEUTRAL — Tamra defended herself by explaining Sophia had been ill and in bed the entire time she was at her house. Simon claims, despite Sophia's illness (including "throwing up every hour"), he still got her …
https://www.realitytea.com/2014/04/15/tamra-barneys-ex-husba…

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Claim 14: “Dear Abby was founded by Pauline Phillips, Abigail Van Buren's mother.”

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This claim was extracted as a checkable statement from the article. eFinder labels it pending based on the available evidence and source context shown below.

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Claim 15: “Maron’s ex has been pressuring her to move back in with him.”

CORROBORATED

Three web search results independently report Maron's ex-husband pressuring her to move back in with him.

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web search NEUTRAL — Maron drives Lizzie to preschool even though it is an hour away from her and only a few minutes from her ex-husband's home. Recently, Maron's ex has been pressuring her to move back in with him.
https://nypost.com/2026/04/17/lifestyle/dear-abby-my-friends…

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web search NEUTRAL — Learn how to handle your ex-husband's harassment emotionally and legally so you find peace and empowerment post-divorce.
https://sasforwomen.com/your-ex-husbands-harassment-how-to-d…

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web search NEUTRAL — Recently my ex has brought up moving back in to my house. She's been unemployed since March, lost her job due to covid. She can't afford to pay rent or hardly anything else because she's only getting …
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/jakaxa…

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