Dear Abby: My friend’s late husband had an affair — and his mistress showed up at the funeral with his child

Nypost · May 30, 2026 · 647 words · By Dear Abby

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DEAR ABBY: I have witnessed many events at funerals that shouldn’t happen but seem to continue to happen.

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What happened

DEAR ABBY: I have witnessed many events at funerals that shouldn’t happen but seem to continue to happen.

Why it matters

An example is a woman who has had a child with a married man showing up at the man’s funeral, acting as if they’re part of the family.

Common ground

The woman usually shows up with a grown child, using the excuse that she’s there for her child.

Perspective signals

The tension in the story is sharpened by Loaded Language, Name Calling / Labeling: language that can make the dispute feel more urgent, personal, or adversarial than the underlying facts alone.

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eFinder identified 2 propaganda techniques in this article. These signals explain how wording, emphasis, or missing context can shape a reader's interpretation.

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Loaded Language 90% confidence

Using words with strong emotional connotations to influence an audience.

Found in this article: eFinder flagged this technique because the story's framing or source language may guide readers toward a particular interpretation. Review the claim checks and evidence below to separate what is directly supported from what is implied by wording or emphasis.

Why it matters: Recognizing loaded language helps readers compare the article's framing with the underlying facts and with coverage from other sources.

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Name Calling / Labeling 80% confidence

Attaching a negative label to a person or group to reject them without evidence.

Why it matters: Recognizing name calling / labeling helps readers compare the article's framing with the underlying facts and with coverage from other sources.

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eFinder analyzed this article and checked 3 claims against available evidence, cross-references, web search, and Wikipedia. Here is what the fact-checking layer found.

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Claim 1: “Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips”

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Wikipedia explicitly confirms that the column is carried on today by Jeanne Phillips, who owns the legal rights to the pen name Abigail Van Buren.

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Wendie Malick (born December 13, 1950) is an American actress and former fashion model, known for her roles in various television comedies. She starred as Judith Tupper Stone in the HBO sitcom Dream O…
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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Dear Abby is an American advice column founded in 1956 by Pauline Phillips under the pen name "Abigail Van Buren" and carried on today by her daughter, Jeanne Phillips, who now owns the legal rights t…
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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Pauline Esther Phillips (née Friedman; July 4, 1918 – January 16, 2013), also known as Abigail Van Buren, was an American advice columnist and radio show host who began the well-known Dear Abby newsp…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pauline_Phillips

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Claim 2: “Dear Abby... was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips”

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Wikipedia explicitly states that Dear Abby was founded in 1956 by Pauline Phillips.

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Jeanne Phillips ( JEE-nee; born 1942), also known as Abigail Van Buren, is an American advice columnist who has written for the advice column Dear Abby since 2000. She was born in Minneapolis to Paul…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeanne_Phillips

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Claim 3: “Contact Dear Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069”

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The contact information is repeated across multiple cross-references, but all these references are from the same organization (Nypost). The Wikipedia result provided is irrelevant (discussing Chicken Little), and no other independent sources confirm the specific P.O. Box or URL.

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Connie Britton (born Constance Elaine Womack; March 6, 1967) is an American actress. Her accolades include nominations for five Primetime Emmy Awards and two Golden Globe Awards. She gained prominence…
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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Chicken Little is a 2005 American animated science fiction comedy film produced by Walt Disney Feature Animation. It is loosely inspired by the European folk tale "Henny Penny", known in the United St…
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