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Dear Abby: I haven’t spoken to my family in five years, my heart is broken

Nypost · · 554 words · By Dear Abby
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What to know about Dear Abby: I haven’t spoken to my family in five years, my heart is broken

DEAR ABBY: I was in a relationship with my daughter’s father for 11 years.

Claims checked 13
Techniques found 0
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Coverage spectrum

Coverage gap: Low Left coverage
Left17%
Center66%
Right17%

6 sources compared across this story cluster. This is an eFinder estimate from indexed source coverage, not an editorial rating.

What happened

DEAR ABBY: I was in a relationship with my daughter’s father for 11 years.

Why it matters

From the beginning, he lied, manipulated and cheated.

Common ground

When I finally had had enough and left, my family decided to maintain a relationship with him (dinners, parties, camping, holidays).

Perspective signals

No major persuasion pattern has been attached yet, so the source, headline, and evidence should carry most of the weight for readers.

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fact_checkClaims Checked

eFinder analyzed this article and checked 13 claims against available evidence, cross-references, web search, and Wikipedia. Here is what the fact-checking layer found.

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Claim 1: “From the beginning, he lied, manipulated and cheated.”
SINGLE SOURCE
The claim is a direct allegation of personal misconduct (lying, manipulating, cheating) made by the author. The provided web search results are either generic articles about these topics or irrelevant content, and do not contain any external reporting or evidence confirming these specific allegations against the man in the author's life.
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web search NEUTRAL — The Direct Effect of Manipulated Instagram Photos.
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/15213269.2016.1…
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web search NEUTRAL — The site owner hides the web page description.
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/cd0odq…
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web search NEUTRAL — 10-reasons-why-do-daughters-love-their-fathers-so-much-2. 1) Daddy comes first, always! Every time a girl is asked to choose between her mother and her daughter, she goes on to say both, but deep down…
https://truewordings.com/10-reasons-why-do-daughters-love-th…
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Claim 2: “Shared spaces were left messy, personal belongings spread throughout the house, decor rearranged and boundaries ignored.”
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No evidence was gathered for this claim, and the evidence count confirms no relevant information was found in the search results.
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Claim 3: “I was in a relationship with my daughter’s father for 11 years.”
SINGLE SOURCE
The claim relates to personal relationship details (11 years) that are not corroborated by the provided web search or Wikipedia results. The evidence for '11' is general (number, date), and the web results are irrelevant to the author's personal life. Therefore, the claim remains unverified by external sources.
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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Eleven or 11 may refer to: 11 (number), the natural number following 10 and preceding 12 One of the years 11 BC, AD 11, 1911, 2011
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/11
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wikipedia NEUTRAL — 11:11, Eleven Eleven, or variations of the two, may refer to:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/11:11
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wikipedia NEUTRAL — In numerology, 11:11 is considered to be a significant moment in time for an event to occur. It is seen as an example of synchronicity, as well as a favorable sign or a suggestion towards the presence…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/11:11_(numerology)
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Claim 4: “That did not happen because the guest was going through a difficult time.”
INSUFFICIENT EVIDENCE
No evidence was gathered for this claim, and the evidence count confirms no relevant information was found in the search results.
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Claim 5: “The guest even began moving items from a van into our home!”
PENDING
This claim was extracted as a checkable statement from the article. eFinder labels it pending based on the available evidence and source context shown below.
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Claim 6: “When they suggested staying in the van outside and coming inside only at certain times, I finally said, “I want our home back,” and made it clear that this arrangement would not work for me.”
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This claim was extracted as a checkable statement from the article. eFinder labels it pending based on the available evidence and source context shown below.
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Claim 7: “Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.”
PENDING
This claim was extracted as a checkable statement from the article. eFinder labels it pending based on the available evidence and source context shown below.
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Claim 8: “That was six years ago, and they are all still going strong.”
SINGLE SOURCE
The claim specifies a timeline (six years ago). The provided web search results are general and unrelated to the author's personal timeline. No external source corroborates this specific timeframe.
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web search NEUTRAL — 000 years since the supposed creation of the Earth by the Abrahamic God,[2] which according to the Talmud marks the deadline for the Messiah to appear.[3] Predictions of the end from natural events ha…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_dates_predicted_for_ap…
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web search NEUTRAL — About This Event. Description. Stay connected — new event info will appear right here soon. Start Time. Starts on Apr 26, Sunday at 5:00 PM.Times shown for when the event starts in Coordinated Univers…
https://abusetime.dev/games/find-the-brainrot/update
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web search NEUTRAL — Quora is a place to gain and share knowledge. It's a platform to ask questions and connect with people who contribute unique insights and quality answers. This empowers people to learn from each other…
https://www.quora.com/
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Claim 9: “We had agreed I would be given at least two weeks’ notice for any visitors.”
SINGLE SOURCE
The claim specifies an agreement (two weeks' notice). The provided web search results are general and unrelated to the author's personal agreement with her partner.
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web search NEUTRAL — Generate high-quality essays instantly with Aithor's free AI essay generator. Write, edit, and personalize your essays online — no plagiarism, fully customizable. Try it now!
https://aithor.com/ai-essay-generator
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Claim 10: “My partner recently allowed a friend to stay in our home without telling me in advance.”
SINGLE SOURCE
The claim describes a recent event involving the partner allowing a friend to stay without notice. The provided web search results are general and unrelated to the author's personal relationship or home situation.
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web search NEUTRAL — But the writer understands it can be uncomfortable for couples to go to events without their partners, especially if they have trust issues. “The bad news is that if you start doing this and you find …
https://www.nbcnews.com/better/health/want-happier-relations…
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web search NEUTRAL — Anvi Home Stay features a terrace and is located in Rishīkesh, within just less than 1 km of Patanjali International Yoga Foundation and a 11-minute walk of Himalayan Yog Ashram.The prices at Anvi Hom…
https://www.booking.com/hotel/in/anvi-home-stay.en-gb.html
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web search NEUTRAL — The author and her partner smiling in front of a stone wall.In our home state, we were allowed to form pods with only one person outside our family. It was barely a discussion; Cass became my bubble p…
https://www.businessinsider.com/met-my-partner-at-a-funeral-…
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Claim 11: “My family was aware of it.”
SINGLE SOURCE
The claim concerns the author's family's knowledge of the alleged deception. The web search results are general articles about lying and deception (e.g., in Talmud or general human interaction) and do not contain any information regarding the author's specific family or situation.
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web search NEUTRAL — NOVANEWS Posted by: Kitty Moses The Jewish Talmud makes several provisions for Jews to lie to, steal from, and cheat Gentiles. As usual, the only rule is that the Jew must not get caught (“profane the…
https://www.shoahph.com/lying-stealing-and-cheating-in-jewis…
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web search NEUTRAL — A line drawing of the Internet Archive headquarters building façade. An illustration of a computer application window.
https://archive.org/details/lyingdeceptionin0000will
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web search NEUTRAL — I love lying, Chat gpt, manipulating, cheating, lying and also lying original sound - 4syes.What is the difference of lying and cheating? it depends if you lie about the price of the bag or lying abou…
https://www.tiktok.com/discover/what-cheating-lying-manipula…
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Claim 12: “When I finally had had enough and left, my family decided to maintain a relationship with him (dinners, parties, camping, holidays).”
SINGLE SOURCE
The claim describes the author's family's continued relationship with the man after the author left. The provided web search results are general and unrelated to the author's personal life or family dynamics.
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web search NEUTRAL — Hi,I'm witing this from my brother's account. We bought him minecraft but multiplayer wasn't allowed so I allowed everything in the xbox/windows parental settings but it still doesn't work. Now I
https://answers.microsoft.com/en-us/xbox/forum/all/minecraft…
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web search NEUTRAL — Apr 11, 2018 · After WIN 10 1709 Upgrade, Desktop Freezes Randomly 4/11/18 I have been experiencing this same issue for several months now. I upgraded from Windows 10 1507, to 1709. I will openly admi…
https://answers.microsoft.com/en-us/windows/forum/all/after-…
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web search NEUTRAL — I have been organizing a lot of information in Loop. I was wondering if after the free preview is over if I am going to lose all this information?
https://answers.microsoft.com/en-us/officeinsider/forum/all/…
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Claim 13: “My family and I have not spoken in five years.”
SINGLE SOURCE
The claim specifies a duration of no communication (five years). The provided web search results are general and unrelated to the author's personal family communication status. No external source corroborates this specific timeframe.
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web search NEUTRAL — Easton was reaching the typical benchmarks for a child until he suddenly stopped talking, eating, and sleeping at the age of 4. His parents say that his per...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kMTOvvaU5UE
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web search NEUTRAL — Five years later, she has a new novel, “Speak to Me of Home,” which draws directly from her family’s history in Puerto Rico and the Midwest.
https://www.nytimes.com/2025/05/14/books/jeanine-cummins-spe…
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web search NEUTRAL — As a mother to her work, the author speaks directly to her work as if it were a real child: “Thou ill-formed offspring of my feeble brain” (1). This form of apostrophe, or addressing an object as if i…
https://owlcation.com/humanities/anne-bradstreets-the-author…
info Disclaimer: This analysis is generated by AI and should be used as a starting point for critical thinking, not as definitive truth. Claims are verified against publicly available sources. Always consult the original article and additional sources for complete context.