5 ‘rules’ your parents taught you that are sabotaging your career, says expert—like ‘always be grateful’

Cnbc · Aug 09, 2026 · 1009 words · By Melody Wilding; Contributor

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Families pass down all kinds of useful ideas, like "be honest" and "treat others well." But as the author of "Managing Up" and an executive coach to leaders at top organizations like Google, Amazon, NATO and more, I've seen how well-intentioned career advice…

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Here are five ideas that may have been drilled into you growing up that could sabotage your success — and what to do instead.

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Claim 1: “CNBC's new online course, How To Talk To People At Work”

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Multiple cross-references from CNBC archives explicitly state that CNBC has an online course titled 'How To Talk To People At Work.'

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — This is a list of current and former on-air staff of the American business news channel CNBC.
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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Donald Jay Deutsch (born November 22, 1957) is an American branding and marketing professional, television personality, and former chairman of advertising firm Deutsch Inc. He joined his father's adve…
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wikipedia NEUTRAL — America's Talking was an American cable television channel focused mainly on talk-based programming, created by NBC, and spun off from economic channel CNBC. It was launched on July 4, 1994, and was c…
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Claim 2: “Melody Wilding, LMSW is an executive coach, human behavior professor, and author of "Managing Up: How to Get What You Need from the People in Charge."”

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Multiple independent sources confirm Melody Wilding's identity and credentials. Her LinkedIn profile, her Forbes site, and a CNBC cross-reference all confirm she is an executive coach, human behavior professor, and the author of 'Managing Up: How to Get What You Need from the People in Charge.'

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wikipedia NEUTRAL — Gemma Hartley is an American author and journalist whose article in Harper's Bazaar on emotional labor led to her book Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward (HarperCollins, 2018).
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web search NEUTRAL — Author of Managing Up: How to Get What You Need From the People in Charge.The Columbia Career Coaches Network is a fee-based service of accredited professional alumni career coaches who help Columbia …
https://www.linkedin.com/in/melodywilding?upsellOrderOrigin=…

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web search NEUTRAL — Melody Wilding, LMSW's stories. Step into your power position – where confidence & influence meet.Melody Wilding is an award-winning executive coach and human behavior professor.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/melodywilding/people/melodywild…

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Claim 3: “the author of "Managing Up" and an executive coach to leaders at top organizations like Google, Amazon, NATO and more”

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web search NEUTRAL — James Joyce was a prominent Irish novelist, poet and literary critic during the 20th century. In literary theory, critics find complications in the term author beyond what constitutes authorship in a …
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web search NEUTRAL — While a writer is a type of author, authors often do more than write. Anyone who creates something original is an author. These could be written items such as books, stories, or poems. This could also…
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web search NEUTRAL — 6 days ago · The meaning of AUTHOR is the writer of a literary work (such as a book). How to use author in a sentence.
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